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A writing challenge

I’m already late in starting this, but better late than never, right?

After a very LONG winter, the sun is now shining and the grass is green.  Love, love love summer!!  I really need to find more time to get out there and enjoy.

I’ve been working close to 60 hours a week between my two jobs, but the reward is those Dr. bills are almost paid!  My plan is to evaluate the two job thing at year end. 

My resolutions are pretty much on track, with the exception of the creative time I wanted.  But, I’ve never claimed to be perfect. 

My kids are well and thriving in their own lives.  As much as I miss them, I’m proud of the adults they’ve become.  Ali was promoted to Sgt last month, and is currently enjoying the accommodations that comes with that part of her life.  She will be moving to Appleton in a couple weeks as her and her boyfriend begin the next chapter of their relationship.  Derek is still loving his job as manager of a retail store.  He’s got a new girlfriend and she’s wonderful.  I don’t think I could have picked a better one for him! 

We’ve got a bike trip planned for this summer.  Not a long one this year, only a weekend, but looking forward to the time away with friends.  Perhaps next year we will be able to get away longer, depending on jobs etc.

I’ve been tracking my calories pretty faithfully with some success.  I’m down 6.5 lbs so far.  Plenty more to go, but I’m happy with the small steps!

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What I wouldn’t give….

For a good night’s sleep! 

Another step down the road called Menopause.  Too hot with a blanket, too cold without.  I tried a fan last night, and it seemed to be better.   Guess I will know more after another night.  I wish there was a way to fast forward through this crap, cuz I’ve been dealing with some of the symptoms for 15 yrs already. 

I do take Valerian Root for other sleep issues, but the too hot/cold thing was too much for it.  Keep you fingers crossed that I get some sleep tonight.  Too many nights of no sleep, and someone is gonna get their head taken off for something stupid.  I’d feel really bad if that happened, but those pesky hormones take over sometimes.   I’d never get lucky enough for it to be someone who deserved it, that’s for sure.

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Daily Prompt – Roy G. Biv

Today’s Daily Prompt is Roy G. Biv.

Write about anything you’d like, but make sure that all seven colors of the rainbow — red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet — make an appearance in the post, either through word or image.

 

 

Red is my least favorite color.

Orange is one of my school color.

Yellow is the color of sunshine

Green grass is sorely missed right about now.

Blue is the color of my car

What can I say about Indigo? 

Steve’s favorite color is violet.

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A new year – new resolutions?

Do you make resolutions for the New Year? I usually make the same ones every year, but somehow they don’t seem to last beyond Jan 15. This year, I’m going to put them out here, in the hopes that those who read this, will help hold me accountable.

Here goes….
1. Stop procrastinating. It would be nice to have Christmas presents ready ahead of time, rather than just before they need to be wrapped.
2. Organize my files. I’ve got a box of papers and a file cabinet that need to learn to get along. I’m thinking if I just get started, it won’t be so tough to maintain? (my dislike for filing extends to my job too bleh)
3. Use my treadmill at least 4 days a week, for 30 min at a time to start. Was doing pretty good with that, then I listened to the bed calling me back after Steve went to work.
4. Eat healthier. I’d like to give up caffeine, but I won’t plan on that one. I only have one can/day, so that isn’t so bad, right?
5. Do something crafty/creative once a week. I have scrapbooks waiting to be done (sorry Ali) and drawers full of fabric bought with good intentions. Time to get back to that.
6. Take on the Goodreads 2014 reading challenge, if it comes out. I LOVE to read, so this should be an easy one to keep up with.
7. Develop a 12/24 month budget and stick to it. Would love to have a couple things paid off by the end of 2014.

So there they are. And, done before Jan 1, so maybe I’m already working on #1?

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» Daily Prompt: Tattoo….You?

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Today’s Daily Prompt: Tattoo….You?

Do you have a tattoo? If so, what’s the story behind your ink? If you don’t have a tattoo, what might you consider getting emblazoned on you skin?

I never considered getting a tattoo until I met Steve. Once I started thinking about it, I knew IF I was going to get one, it HAD to be something that meant a lot to me, something that wouldn’t ever change. I guess Steve knows me better than I thought, because he gave an idea to his tattoo guy, and the picture is the end result. My KIDS. The star in the point of the heart has symbolism too. 25 yrs ago, I had a miscarriage. The star represents the angel that went to heaven to be rocked by the Grandma’s who live there. Not many people know about my tattoo. I didn’t get it to show it off. For me, it represents the strength and depth of my love for my kids.

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A different view on life

As the motorcycle season is winding to a close, I’m reflecting on how life feels so different on the back of the bike.  I’ve learned I never want to drive my own bike, that I’m so very content riding behind Steve.  Conversation with him is limited, obviously.  I find myself viewing the scenery as we ride by in a different light.  It seems more vivid, and smells more real.    Seeing the trees change color in the fall is an amazing site. 

This weekend is my 3rd trip to Tomahawk for the fall ride.   I admit, I’m still a ‘newbie’ at the whole biker thing, but I think I’ve gotten past the mouth-open shock of the sites during this weekend.  We don’t camp the same way as others do.  My version of camping is a motel with a soft bed and hot running water.  My body just doesn’t take the dampness very well anymore, and sleeping on the ground just isn’t an option.  I’m thankful Steve agrees. 

I still remember how surprised I was to see a bunch of lawyers dressed in leather in a booth advertising their services.  I found myself looking around wondering what the rest of the leather-clad people did 40hrs a week.  It was a reminder to myself to not profile or judge people based on their outside appearance.

I’ve gotten past being upset when people go out of their way to avoid me when I walk through a store or restaurant when I have my biker leathers on.  It still bothers me when parents grab their child’s hand and pull them away.  Do they think I’m going to abduct them or something?  Steve has been judged based on his long hair and tattoos too.  Too bad the people judging him don’t take the time to realize just what an amazing man he really is.  He’d give the shirt off his back to someone in need. 

Wouldn’t it be nice if this country could all just get along?  And, not be worried about the color of someone’s skin or the clothes they wear.  Maybe someday….

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Good bye Summer!

After checking the forecast on my phone, I see that today is likely the last real summer day til next year. I don’t mind the change of seasons, and love watching it snow, once. Then it could just warm up again and we could move into spring!

Here’s my 5 favorite things about summer!
1. Lots and lots of sunshine
2. Arthritis aches and pains at a minimum
3. No snow to shovel
4. Escaping for an afternoon ride on the Harley
5. lots and lots of sunshine!!

I know, I repeated the sunshine one, but I am such a warm weather woman! I just may be a southern woman at heart, but I was planted in Wisco and will likely stay here. Being around my family, especially my kids, trumps dealing with some of that white stuff.

What are your favorite summer things??

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My Adventures in Online Dating

After my divorce was final, I decided to try the online dating thing.  Living in a small town, it seemed preferable to going to the bar.  Which was pretty much my only other option, besides the internet.  The hardest part was taking a picture of myself.  I really prefer to be behind the camera, not in front of it, and I always look heavier in photos that I do in person.  At any rate, here is a list of what I learned.

1.  Have thick skin!  Not every man will fall in love at first site.  And, actually, you don’t want the ones who would.  Too needy.

2.  Men are VERY visual creatures.  Don’t spend a ton of time on the written portion of your profile.  Most don’t read it.  But, DO post several photos.  Especially a full body pic, or you will get asked for one. 

3.  Don’t be afraid to do a google search on a prospective date.  Wisconsin has a free website to look up anyone’s court record.   If someone is unwilling to give a last name, it probably isn’t someone you want to meet.

4.  Make sure you tell someone where you are going, and who you are going to meet.  Safety first!  Always meet in public!

5.  A free site will work just as well as a pay one.  I discovered the same men on several sites.  Why pay?

6.  Scammers are out there.  DON’T fall for the sob stories!!  You shouldn’t have to send someone money so they can come meet you.  If it(they) sound too good to be true, they probably are.

7.  Follow your gut instincts.  There were a couple times I regretted not following mine.

8.  Don’t be afraid to meet for a soda/tea/coffee etc first.  No need for a big dinner date to start.  If you don’t feel that there is any chemistry, you sure don’t want to sit through a big meal.

9.  It was my preference to meet in person shortly after making contact online.  Too much time spent on the phone led to false feelings of chemistry.  Turns out I was just as visual as men.  Who’d a thunk that?

10.  It isn’t uncommon for men to just want to use you for sex.  Do it or not, your choice, just be safe and use protection.  Some will want it on the first date, others will let you set the pace, but once you give it up, they may disappear. 

Now for a couple of funny stories….

I was contacted by a man who was a nudist.  Wanted to know if I had ever experienced the life style. Uh no, sorry. Not now, not ever.

I met a guy one night who looked just like Ernie Douglas from My Three Sons.  He had a tough time looking me in the eye while we were talking.  He also looked waaaaay different than his profile had led me to believe.  Shorter, and less hair.  The hair wouldn’t have bothered me, but the fact that he lied about his height did.  I faked a phone call from home, and cut the night short. 

I met another guy for an ice cream cone.  That poor man was sweating soooo bad, I thought he was going to have an anxiety attack right there.  It made me wonder just how nervous he would be if we ever made it to the bedroom.

Another guy made it past the first meet, and we started dating.  After about 5 dates, he professed to love me.  As flattering as that was, I couldn’t keep seeing him.  He ended up calling me anonymously for several months.  Finally quit when Steve answered the phone for me one morning. 

Had one guy tell me I was like saran wrap.  Since he thought I was too clingy, I stopped all calls/texts. Not that I initiated many anyway.  He had also told me that the most he had to offer was a committed relationship, but that he wasn’t even ready for that yet.  Ok.  When he told me a second time, I let him know I had heard him the first time and that since he had made it known he didn’t consider us in a relationship, that I knew I was free to date others.  He didn’t really like that either.  Can’t have your cake and eat it too.

I’m very happy I met Steve.  We met online 3yrs ago this weekend.  I can’t imagine what my life would be like without him.

Any adventures of your own to share??  I’d love to hear them!

 

 

 

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Shoot…..

Thought I had a whole story about online dating saved, but all I found upon logging in was the title. Not the first time technology and I have had a difference of opinion.

Today’s smartphones are still something of a mystery to me too. I’m sure I only use a fraction of what my phone is capable of doing. My kids laugh at me when I suggested that I should upgrade to something like a smartphone…hahaha. ‘Don’t call me, Mom!’ That saying what goes around, comes around? Yeah, well it applies here, as I still get phone calls for help on computer issues from my parents. Have to remember next time when I grumble, just what if feels like to feel helpless with new technology.

If the computer and I hit it off, I will attempt to re-type my planned Adventures in Online Dating blog tomorrow!!

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Vacation Observations – Day Two

Today was the last day of a weekend vacation.  On our return trip, I discovered –

1.  Fast food restaurants exist, but not north of Sturgeon Bay.

2.  We saw lots of once-active farms, acres of crops, a few horses, and strangely only a handful of cows.  Very different from the mega-farms in our area.

3.  Cherry salsa seems all the rage in Door County, but upon sampling?  Pass.  Maybe if it had been an all fruit salsa, but cherries and tomatoes just didn’t work for us.

4.  All vacations should be taken on a motorcycle.  Limited space = limited desire to shop.  My checkbook was appreciative. 

5.  I still don’t like bridges.  Riding over them on a motorcycle in the wind didn’t change that.

6.  Gas seemed to be the only thing not costing more in a tourist town.  $1.75 for a can of soda?  Making hay while the sun shines, I suppose.  Winter must be kind of bleak in Door County.

When you travel to another area, what are some things you notice, that are different from home?

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